Hi! I was browzing through your “Elementary” tag and was wondering why you consider Joan and Sherlock’s relationtionship to be “D/s”?
OH GOSH OKAY I am on a study break so this is gonna be brief and probably pretty incoherent, but!
ETA:you know what, I am gonna put a cut here, because this is pretty ridic.
1) I don’t consider their relationship to be A D/s Relationship,* or at least not yet - but I do think it has certain D/s-ish undercurrents, and the potential to evolve in that direction. Thus, I ship them as a D/s couple, sometimes romantic, sometimes platonic, sometimes sexual, sometimes various admixtures of the above, I DON’T KNOW I HAVE A LOT OF FEELINGS.
*at least inasmuch as it is possible to define what makes a ~real~ D/s relationship, which, a real D/s relationship is whatever works for you, so I am going by the rubric of, ‘is acknowledged as such either implicitly or explicitly by either them or the show’, which it currently isn’t WHOOPS DIGRESSION
2) I ship them that way/see those elements in their dynamic for a bunch of reasons, starting with: Sherlock is canonically a bottom! Obvs, ‘bottom’ does not automatically equate to ‘sub’, but it was the first big thing that made me go, HEYO POSSIBLE KINKY DYNAMIC HERE sob it was all downhill from there.
3) Despite his hatred of rehab and chafing at rules and regulations, and his more-than-occasional brattiness, Sherlock does respond well to a measure of structure and control in his life, when delivered with a firm and caring hand. (BECAUSE HE LOST CONTROL?? because he doesn’t quite trust himself anymore, and he has to learn again, and the structure joan gives him and the stability she provides creates a safe space for him to start growing back into himself!!!)
4) because Sherlock CRAVES JOAN’S ATTENTION like holy crap, whether he’s showing off or acting out his life is a constant refrain of joan joan jOAN LOOK JOAN I DID THE THING JOAN FRIEND PLS JOAN STAY JOAN LOOK
5) because he especiallygets a little kick out of knowing what she wants/needs before she wants/needs it, and then providing it for her. see: breakfast (SUCH A METICULOUSLY PREPARED BREAKFAST), laying out her clothes (WHICH SHE TOTALLY WORE SHE DIDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT), holding her coat for her (we’ll get to that in a minute), buying her a new spatula, god.
6) let’s revisit the coat-holding, aka the moment that completely sold me on joan + sherlock as D/s forever and ever amen, LUCKILY I JUST REBLOGGED SOME GIFS. that first one, at the end of the pilot, dfkjkjfdsdjsdnbkfklf. sherlock is at such a low point there; he’s fresh out of rehab, which, getting clean is one of the most soul-scouringly difficult, emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausting things a person can go through; he’s just solved a case that pushed some very raw, very personal buttons (abuse of the vulnerable/mentally ill); he’s lost his temper and lashed out, making him realise how volatile he is and how little he can trust his own self-control and emotional responses right now; we know now he must have been starting to process irene’s apparent death without the heroin as a buffer; he’s even physically banged up. he’s so brittle, and he must be reeling. and joan walks down those stairs like a queen, a solid and anchoring presence, and sherlock so carefullytakes up her coat and holds it for her. just. sdkffkjd look at the way he does it, so careful and precise and focused and needing to get this right, and my italics are getting out of control, and this is what joan does for him in return: she accepts it. she sees what sherlock is offering, and she accepts it, and she sees what sherlock needs, and she gives it.
7) i’m gonna die.
8) and then in the second coat gif, joan is exhausted. all that she and sherlock worked to carve out almost came crumbling down around them because of rhys, she spent the past few days wondering if she was going to lose sherlock to addiction again, she got taken hostage by a man with a gun who tried to leverage her bond with sherlock and knocked him out and then had to stabilise a gunshot victim on their living-room floor until the ambulance got there. SHE’S HAD A REALLY LONG DAY, OK. and sherlock holds out her coat again, but this time it’s not for him, it’s for her; he’s reaffirming their connection, reaffirming his trust in her (going to the meeting because joan wants him to, opening up because joan wants him to), letting her step back into her own control.
9) and that’s the thing, joan lost control, too. joan was a surgeon, used to reaching into people and fixing them with her own two hands, used to holding their very lives in her hands - until she made a mistake, and someone died. joan isn’t always kind, because sometimes kindness isn’t what’s needed, but she’s deeply compassionate. that’s what she does, one way or another: she makes things better (patients, clients, crimes). she figures people out, she sees them for what they are, and she helps them to heal. she’s calm and stout-hearted and loyal and protective and she knows herself and she knows exactly where her boundaries are and she knows exactly the shit up with which she will not put.
10) and she accepts sherlock’s tentative gestures of submission so gracefully and instinctively LIKE SHE JUST WEARS THE CLOTHES HE LAID OUT FOR HER AND IT’S NOT EVEN A THING, SHE JUST DOES. jesus.
11) and as a surgeon, she has an intimate understanding of the workings of the human body (and sherlock digs suspension and restraints and possibly sensory deprivation and no doubt being on the receiving end of a variety of other things of a similar nature).
12) and she loves a good workout.
13) and it gives them both something fulfilling, something trusting, something self-actualising, something they can explore and investigate and figure out together, something that helps them both stretch out and be/come their best, happiest selves.
14) and I’m superstitious enough to not want to bring bad luck upon my blog by ending on a thirteen, so let’s all talk about when joan did the I Am Not Kidding Voice and sherlock ran right the fuck up those stairs at top speed and the way she pushes over the rack of keys in the trailer for next week, good god.
…this was not brief, this was not brief at all, i am sorry